A Beautiful Soul in my life journey once said to me, in a playful, yet serious way, “You’re not sorry, you’d do it again.”

That phrase stopped me in my tracks. 

Internally, I thought, “What?!”  I was taught to apologize and everything would be alright. 

I was not expecting to get called out for an EMPTY apology!

At that stage in my journey, I did not fully recognize the wisdom that could be drawn from that statement, but I was wise enough to recognize that she WAS right.  I WOULD do it again, whatever “it” was, and I was simply executing my conditioned programming to say, “sorry,” whenever any sense of conflict arose.  I was not saying it with much meaning nor heart behind the phrase.

Do You Mean it?

Apologies become meaningless if they are robotic and if there is a lack of clarity on what the apology is actually for.  Again, the development of this trend, of not even knowing what the apology is about, may stem from the idea that by simply saying the word “sorry”, the conflict and uncomfortable feeling will go away.

Can YOU think of a recent time when you said “sorry”? 

Was there meaning behind the sentiments and clarity on what the apology was for?

Will you do it again? 

Or do you want to change the pattern? 

Awareness is a first step.

I AM…

An additional aspect to this ubiquitous use of the phrase, “I am sorry”, is how very insidiously, the use of the phrase, causes the speaker to identify AS sorry. 

I AM sorry is very different than I FEEL sorry.  The latter phrase decrees a feeling that is separate from Self, whereas the former statement is identifying AS sorry. 

Since there is much low frequency baggage with the word, “sorry”, to identify with that word is not serving the higher Self.

Normalize LOVE

The beautiful thing is, as we Normalize LOVE as our State of Being, we transcend apology. 

As we embody our true Essence of LOVE, with increasing frequency and Wholeness, we need not apologize since our thoughts, emotions, words, and behaviours, simply do not materialize in ways that would “warrant” an apology.  Imagine that!

Living in LOVE and flow does not mean there is not dissonance, however, a feeling to apologize disappears due to such an alignment with the Divine.  If dissonance occurs, the intention becomes to learn what caused the situation, so that it need not occur again. 

In a State of LOVE, there is no desire, nor impulse, to sit in sorrow, and certainly not a program to reflexively apologize.

The State of LOVE is one that is UNAPOLOGETIC as it is known there are zero intentions to hurt in that State of LOVE.

Disclaimer

This piece is not suggesting to never apologize since it is clear that most people in this world are not fully enlightened beings that live perpetually in LOVE.  Raising awareness to the ubiquitous and robotic use of apologizing is the intent, such that this conditioning can be shifted and so more focused attention can be applied to learning from the given situation.  The journey continues…

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